Although the search for happiness is a universal endeavor, we often find ourselves struggling with guilt once we finally achieve it. From an early age, we are encouraged to chase happiness, be it through personal triumphs, relationships, or experiences. Psychologists propose that the hunt for happiness isn't just a social expectation, but a biological necessity. Our brains are programmed to seek joy and evade discomfort, making the chase for happiness instinctive. However, when we finally lay our hands on it, we often find ourselves wrestling with guilt. Where does this come from and how can we overcome it to focus on our happiness?
Where does the guilt come from?
Unexpected guilt can originate from various places. One source could be the social pressure that comes with success. When we find happiness, particularly through material gains, we might feel guilty for possessing more than others, especially when we're conscious of the global suffering and misfortune that many endure. Another origin of guilt can be traced back to our personal beliefs and values. If we've been raised with the notion that success is synonymous with hard work and strife, finding happiness without these perceived hardships can provoke feelings of guilt. We may feel as though we haven't worked hard enough for our happiness or that we don't truly deserve it.
How to overcome guilt!
So, how can we overcome this guilt? The first step is to acknowledge the guilt. Understand that it's normal to feel this way and that you're not alone in these feelings. Then, stock up on gratitude. Next remind yourself of the path you've traversed to arrive here and express appreciation for the opportunities and experiences that have brought you to this point. This can help you feel more deserving of your happiness. Lastly, share your happiness. Happiness isn't a limited commodity; sharing it doesn't reduce your own. By spreading joy and positivity, you can alleviate feelings of guilt and find satisfaction in others' happiness.
The quest for happiness is a shared human experience, yet the guilt that often accompanies it, can be an overwhelming struggle. However, by acknowledging these feelings, practicing gratitude, and sharing our happiness, we can chase away guilt and wholeheartedly embrace our happiness we finally achieved!