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How to Talk to People Who Keep Repeating Themselves

We all have that one person in our life who continuously repeats themselves! It can cause feelings of frustration, but what can we do? There are a few different reasons why someone might stay "on repeat". They could be suffering from short term memory loss, social development conditions, or feelings of insecurities so their words don’t match up. Others may simply mis-remember an important fact so they go back and adjust what they said while still repeating their point. There are multiple reasons why and if you have concerns of possibly offending them, you can try a few techniques when the repeating occurs again.

Instead of jumping to anger, try practicing patience when you experience someone repeating themselves. It is a skill that can be learned with time and effort.

How to Talk to People Who Keep Repeating Themselves - Practice Patience

You can try breathing exercises. When you start to feel yourself getting impatient, take a few deep breaths and count to 10 slowly. This will help you to stay calm and focused. Another method is to practice gratitude. When you're feeling frustrated, take a moment to appreciate the good things in your life. This could be anything from the sun shining to being surrounded by loved ones. Focusing on these things can help you to step outside of the situation. You can also try the technique of talking slower. Slowing down your speech and learning to pause frequently when talking can have a calming effect on yourself.

Redirecting the conversation can help with those who tend to repeat themselves.

How to Talk to People Who Keep Repeating Themselves - Redirect Conversation

By asking your friend a question or changing the subject, you can effectively end the conversation without seeming rude. With a little practice, you will master the art of conversation redirection in no time. If you're feeling trapped, there are a few ways to redirect the conversation. One tactic is to simply change the subject. You can say something like, " I've been meaning to ask you about..." And then launch into a different topic. Asking questions will not only help to steer the conversation in a different direction, but it will also show that you're interested in what the other person has to say.

Repeat what they said back to them when they start the pattern of recall.

How to Talk to People Who Keep Repeating Themselves - Repeat

This technique emphasizes you were paying attention and also enables you to clarify anything you may have missed. This builds rapport and keeps the conversation going. Next time you are in a conversation give it a try by repeating back what the other person just said, this can be an invaluable communication tool. You might be surprised at how well it works.

When this occurs again in conversation with someone who is repeating themselves, try one of these techniques to maintain your cool. You never know what someone could be going through or why they may be repeating themselves. Practicing techniques can only add to your communication skills and express kindness in the process. Most people don’t choose to repeat themselves knowingly. Showing compassion and using your new found tools, can help you to maintain your connections and possibly move past the repeating.



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